Why You Long for Love—But Resist What It Requires with Dr. Judith

In this episode, Dr. Judith explains how heartbreak can lead women to “test” love—turning relationships into ongoing examinations—and how this guardedness can also spill into quietly testing God. She distinguishes caution (observing and building trust gradually) from guardedness (assuming past pain will repeat and requiring constant proof), using courtroom imagery and examples of Angie, who withholds truth and expects her partner to read her silence, and Denise, who avoids asking for help and tests whether support will arrive unrequested. Dr. Judith frames healing through the threefold flame—power, wisdom, and love—restored from control, over-analysis, and conditional warmth into balanced boundaries with a “gate,” not walls that withhold information. She urges honest communication, discernment based on present behavior, and reconnecting to one’s God source/I AM presence/Christ within rather than making relationship outcomes the measure of divine love.

00:00 Why We Test Love

01:09 Caution Versus Guardedness

03:25 The Relationship Courtroom

05:42 Past Wounds in Midlife

09:28 Balancing Power Wisdom Love

12:23 Testing God After Heartbreak

15:26 Angie and Hidden Tests

21:25 Denise and Receiving Support

24:11 Boundaries Versus Walls

27:00 Reconnecting to God Source

29:44 Weekly Practice and Closing